Greetings and welcome to all of you!
As the title suggests, I want to explain what it is meant by "Karmic Relationships" and how this deep & powerful relationship,can sometimes overtake all that you are,and cause you to feel defeated and hurt time and again. This is a 3 part series, which will include "Soul-Mates" & "Twin Flames"
A "Karmic Relationship", is not your soul-mate or twin flame, no matter how much you may want it to be, and this can be difficult to say the least.
The love relationships that you experience throughout your life, are always karmic in nature.But not all past life relationships were happy ones, so when the connection is made between you, you have no idea whether this is a good or bad thing-only that you are drawn to them,like a magnet.
The Karma or energy between you needs to be rinsed clean,so you can then continue your mission, and rise above, to your true happiness in life.If you are not ready for this, you may stay in unhealthy relationships, for fear of being left alone,unhappy,never find someone else & the list goes on.
The experience of a "Karmic Relationship" is never supposed to be a lasting one-unless you enjoy arguments,unhappiness and resentments in your daily life. If you do not choose to embrace your happiness, and find out where you wish to be in life,then you will remain in these type of relationships-or keep attracting them.
All the while,you may be wishing for a better life,but not willing to do any inner healing-or be true to yourself,or even know how or where to begin the healing.
This confusion can also lead you further into depression and worry, and so the cycle continues.You may even feel trapped, scared and unable to move forward. There is no easy way out of self growth.It is going to be up to you,what is acceptable.
In these kind of love relationships,there is no real growth on an inner level & there is also much confusion and indecision outwardly also. Many younger people will experience these relationships early in life,and this can even result in the first heartbreak-or go on to be a destructive long term relationships,and later,these can involve into having children.
Yet the bond and connection was so overpowering,that even when all the signs are staring you in the face... .you choose to ignore this.(Maybe they will change??Not likely!)
Again,if you are not OK with who you are-even if that meant you would never have a partner in your life, then you will always attract the kind of relationships that are destructive,hurtful and confusing,to say the least. In effect mirroring what you are portraying as you....
A Karmic Relationship has some of these characteristics:
- A very intense attraction( can't stop thinking about them)
- A feeling of nervousness when the other is near (wanting them to love you )
- An addiction to sex,drugs,drinking etc.(Non-stop party)
- A "Bad Girl/Boy" persona (wanting to be safe/appear strong)
- Arguments & hurtful words-resulting in sex afterwards (this is abuse!)
- Giving up your interests and who you are to please them
- Restricted Financially-always taking from you
- Abuse of all kinds
- Selfishness toward responsibility (you have to take care of everything)
- Never letting go of past hurt( often bringing up the "ex" or parents)
- Jealousy ( you are not allowed to hang out but they are)
- Rage( outbursts of anger & property damage,door slamming etc)
- Isolation ( no contact with friends no work no family)
- Name calling (disrespect of feelings)
- Weight Loss/Gain ( both from severe stress!)
- Nice when they want something ( sweet talks until you give in)
- Calling Just For Sex then ignoring you ( purely physical)
- Lies (will lie even when caught!)
- Cheating ( cheats with you,will cheat on you)
- Social aggression(Hates attention that you get-gets into fights)
- Obsession( calls you non stop-watches you, smells your clothes etc)
- Breakups ( then cries or has a drama to pull you back in)
- Depression (cutting, spacing out, loss of reality,sleeps all the time)
Also a person who does not want a relationship with you, but just wants you for the good times,or only when it suits them,will sometimes be the hardest one to release.This person shows you a loving side that you long for,and so you believe they are almost perfect..If only...
Common WARNING signs that you are with someone like this:
- "I don't want a relationship" (walk away now while you can! )
- "Its not you it is me" ( yes it is them,you are wasting your time. )
- "I will call you when I can" (Translates,I will call you when I have nothing better to do)
- "You are too good for me,don't waste your time"(this is not a compliment,this is an excuse for their bad behavior.)
- "I'm not ready for love"( Another excuse)
- "I'm not loveable" ( This is another needy reply)
- 'Don't call me I will call you" (This is also a sign of someone who may be married/partner)
- "I'm just too busy for a partner"(But not too busy for your friends hmm?)
- "You don't really want me" (Take this hint,and run,You definitely don't!)
- "Can't we just be friends?" ( But only on my terms)
Sometimes you may break away from these kinds of relationships,and still the moment this person contacts you,you will drop everything and run straight to them!!!You will even accept the other's excuses! As long as they have wanted you for that moment! Even when you know its foolish.
All of these and more are signs of a Karmic Relationship.
This relationship will only get better,if you are BOTH willing to grow forward and embrace the love that you want for your life,and this will also include a growing emotionally and spiritually,so all the things that used to occupy your time,will change to more love based and happy things.You must be on the same path...both heading to the completion of your goals/dreams .Working together & building the future you would like. Usually,once you start to develop these areas of your life,you may even drift apart further,because you will be forced to deal with your true feelings about this person.
It is rare that a Karmic relationship will make anyone truly happy.The whole time that a relationship like this is happening,you KNOW deep down that this is just too hard,and it is not going to last.This underlying thought is what will eventually rule out.
(But I really LOVE them?? No! You just think you do! )
You may also believe that one day,they will see how happy you make them,and how much they love you....ummm NO! This is something that is established in the first 5 minutes of meeting,not after years of hurt and strain-or after you have gone!
If either of you wants to end the relationship more than stay in it-there will usually be a way out that is developed,and in most cases,makes the other person feel like it has happened entirely because of them...
So, if you are pulling your hair out,feeling betrayed,abandoned,unfulfilled,angry,jealous,enraged and left alone to name a few, then you need to be honest about the situation,and know that you deserve happiness on every level. You are delaying this growth,and the longer you leave it,the harder it is.
But-there is no easy way out-this HAS to begin with you!!! You need to release all of the past and all the doubts about yourself and start fresh.
After all,this person has taken so much from you-about time you started to reinvent yourself,and take your power back!
Don't believe the put downs you may have received from this person-sometimes, a dark energy may be lurking with them-in which case, they will feel threatened by your light.
It will not be an easy process. But alot easier than living with them!
You may go through a very hard time after the split.Your children, family and your ex may continue to make you pay for mistakes,but still,you have to push forward.If you truly want the deepest love you can have on Earth, you won't find it behind closed doors with someone who is not.
It will be up to you to start beginning the healing process. Talk to your Angels about things.Ask them to guide your way.Ask them to give you faith and hope,even when you are crying in your pillow at night. Strengthen yourself and refuse these lower levels of love to consume you.
Once you have come out of these types of entanglements,you may still get angry or revert to your old way of thinking,but you would have made the most important discovery.You will find that you made it after all,and you can't believe how you could have stayed there all that while.
Please don't ever make the mistake of thinking something is incredibly wrong with you-in reality it has nothing to do with you-but what level you and they are at.
If you are in this sort of situation,and you are not sure how to get out of it or you don't want to have this person harass or call you etc..then you need to be sure that you are ready to leave,and there is no way you would go back. Sometimes we go back again,because it is "easier than arguing" or "the kids are missing them" or "I have no choice" ect..but then we have to start the whole process over again-most times with a whole range of new hurt. Rise above,and never stoop down again-it will be something that you will need to decide very deeply.
A Special Message:
The Archangel Chamuel, who is one of the Archangels of Relationships, offers a message to you now-for those going through this now, just come out of it, or have been there before...
"Dear dear children of heavenly light,
I am with you now in your time of need. It is never easy to have a "Karmic Relationship" enter your life,because of the depth of feeling which is often apparent right from the start...some of these are warning signals to each of you-but each time you follow your guidance and each time you ignore this, we Angels are right there waiting with encouragement.
You may feel as though the depths of your feelings are that of a "Soul-Mate" relationship and this is very confusing especially since you feel as though you have known this person for a long time,and feel an urgent need to help them and guide them along with you.
BUT dear children, are you lowering your standards to accommodate this person? Because a true love situation,would never ask you to change anything about yourself-yes,growth is change,but this is positive energy. To stagnate,or become fearful of someone and what they may do either to themselves,or yourself is certainly not the best you can do.
So don't fight yourself! When you are ready to reach for more and embrace a deep and meaningful love (yes,there is actually one out there for everyone who wants it) It is wise to ask for signs from the Angels as to your next step,and to remove the built up Karma between you and this person-this is important,otherwise you may always revert back to that way of thinking.
If you have been in a relationship before like this,you would know now that you will never lose yourself in that sort of predicament again-but still you may hang on to certain things in that relationship,like trust issues, put downs on your appearance,and harsh words. Sometimes even now, you may still show "survival instincts" and this is the very thing that needs to heal in order to remain in a peaceful relationship.
The biggest challenge for everyone is going to be the release process.You will go through a wide range of emotions as well as feeling like you are abandoned by the Angels...one thing that you never have to concern yourself with is being alone,for we Angels will be there for you every step of the way,and when you are ready,we shall help with the right partner for you. One who deserves you and will want to grow with you!
Of course you may still have a few "trial runs" with some that are Karmic ties to you, but this too,is all part of the process relationship good or bad is intended for you to become fully aware of what you want in life-and whatever that is,if you believe that it can happen to you,and you also want a lasting relationship,this will be brought forward.
Never feel guilt about anything you may have done or said in these sort of relationships...what is done is certainly done,and we Angels hold no grudges to you-we just wait for you to come to us for help in the matter!
As long as you are not repeating mistakes over and over again, you are growing-and so each relationship you have will build you up to the one you finally settle with.
My point is,dear children,you may not learn straight away-or there is still Karma to be balanced between you and another,and so you may have another relationship that is different but along the same lines...the difference will be that you will work this out alot sooner,and therefore it becomes easier for you-until you are with your true life partner.
We Angels want you to have the ultimate happiness that you deserve! If you don't wish to have a partner,there is nothing wrong with this,but if you ever do,remember to write down what you require in this person,and then ethericaly "hand this over to us Angels to deal with for you!" this frees you up to work on yourself and what you have been wanting to do in life...when you least expect it, you will be looking at the one who will love you and make you feel complete-you will then see,that what you had experienced in the past,pales in comparison to the real thing! YES it will happen for you!! Trust & open yourself up for this to come into play-remember when it is the real thing, there is no issues like the ones that have been mentioned-it is bigger and better and certainly worth waiting for!
Anytime that you need some inspiration and guidance,please remember to ask,and then follow the guidance that lies in your heart. You are powerful! You are courageous! You are strong! You are beautiful & talented! Don't hide yourself away,set yourself free and experience the great things that lie ahead for you!
Blessings and warm Angelic hugs!
I AM Chamuel!
As I myself have been through my fair share of "Karmic Relationships" I can fully understand how hard it is to break away. Even when you do,there are so many circumstances in which you will need to see them-especially where children are involved,and floods of memories can come back.
I can tell you that the first time you see your "ex" with someone else,you become very angry-even if you yourself have moved past this. Especially if your "ex" appears to be happy and settled the way you wished it was...
But remember this,that time does heal all wounds .Although you may still, even years later, have to deal with upset and issues about this, you have still come a long way from where you were,and this is a great accomplishment.
Below is a note especially for the ladies ( but men may benefit from this)written by a man.
It is called: "If A Man Wants You"
' If a man wants you,nothing can keep him away,
if he doesn't want you ,nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man & his behavior
Allow your intuition to save you from heartache
Stop trying to change your self for a relationship that's
not meant to be-slower is better
Never live your life for a man until you find out what truly
makes you happy.
If a relationship Ends because the man was not treating you
as you deserve,then heck no,you can't be friends!
A friend would not mistreat a friend.
Don't settle-if you feel like he is stringing you along,he probably is
Don't stay because you think "It will get better" You will be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are NOT better!
The only person you can control in a relationship is you!
Avoid men with a bunch of children with different women,
He didn't marry them-why would he treat you differently?
Always have your own set of friends,separate to his.
Maintain boundaries in how a man treats you
If something bothers you,SPEAK UP!
Never let a man know everything,he will use it against you later!
You can not change a mans behavior
Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel more important than you are
He is a man ,nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are!
Never borrow someone else's man,
if he cheated with you,he will cheat ON you!
A man will only treat you how you ALLOW yourself to be treated
All men are not dogs!
You should not be the one doing all the bending,
Compromise is a two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships,
there is nothing CUTE about baggage!
Deal with your issues BEFORE pursuing a new Relationship.
You should never look for someone to complete you,
A relationship consists of two whole individuals-
Look for someone complimentary not supplementary.
Dating is fun! Even if he dost turn out to be MR Right!
Make him miss you sometimes-when a man knows where you are
& your always readily available-he takes it for granted!
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything you need
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other ladies!
It will make someone SMILE, another RETHINK ,and another PREPARE!
There are Angels that you can connect with to help you to recover and heal those parts of you that have been broken down and painfully hurt. The most important Angels you can have with you in these times, are your Guardian Angels.
You will still go through alot of anguish,but this is also part of the healing process. The main thing is that now you are moving forward in your life,and because of this,you open the floodgates of happiness,and self love. Without deep healing,and allowing your self to get to know YOU, you will fall into a sense of denial-believing that there will be no end to suffering,no one would want you, you will never marry..ETC and this can leave you a very bitter person-the very thing you have been trying to avoid.
My hope for everyone is to find that special "Soul-Mate" or the even deeper experience of a "Twin-Flame".
With Blessings & best wishes!